Not Into “He’s Just Not That Into You”
He’s Just Not That Into You—First of all, the name, the idea, the concept—it all saddens me. I am a hopeless romantic at heart, the type that genuinely believes in the power of love and that love will always prevail. If we are open to it, we will all meet that person that complements us, embraces and empowers us, and challenges us to grow, being the best person we can be. That said, I also believe in honesty and communication, two key concepts that seem to be overlooked in dating and relationships. A person is a living, breathing being that deserves respect; it is morally irresponsible to mess with another’s feelings. If we could look beyond ourselves and truly take other people’s emotions into account, not only would the whole dating “thing” be a lot easier, many headaches and heart breaks would be saved and the world would be a much happier place. It is as easy as getting clear on our own feelings and intentions, and communicating them openly and honestly without fear. If everyone operated in this space, there would be a lot less “mess.”
So lets take a look at the movie…
This film had potential. Not only is the cast great, there is a ton of material to work with. Lets be honest- most women analyze, over-analyze, and nit-pick every move, word, and interaction involving a man when there is potential romance in the air. We would all be multi-billionaires if we had a penny for every minute spent in dialogue with our girlfriends, breaking down every single detail of our interaction with a guy we were possibly interested in. These conversations take place all day, whether in person, on the phone, or via text or email. This is our genetic make-up, it exists in some part of every one of us whether we like it or not. We try to figure out what he meant by what he said or what his body language was trying to communicate or why he emailed instead of calling… Yes, we have given writers a set of Encyclopedia Britanicca’s worth of ammunition to use for this script. However, rather than using this material and putting a great spin on the schizophrenia of the relationship obsessed, over analytical female mind, the movie felt like another Hollywood attempt to cash in at the box office and capitalize on the “Sex and the City” genre of a woman’s never ending quest for love. There were tons of scenes that could have left the audience falling out of their chairs with laughter. Instead, we were all left hanging in anticipation of humor. It was like going to a comedy club where the comedian on stage bombs because his delivery is off and he is just not funny. The dialogue terrible, the characters were pathetic, much of the story was useless, and the movie drug on endlessly. In a nutshell, if I could take these two hours of my life back, I would. What a disappointment.
On a positive note, Gennifer Goodwin was cute as a button and it was great to finally see Ben Affleck back on screen and actually likable.
Did anyone feel our pain? Let us know your take on the film and how it could have been better by leaving a comment below.
